Do you know that in America alone, people are spending as much as $750 million on self-help books a year and more than $1 billion on motivational speakers? More than 100 colleges offer classes in positive psychology — the science of happiness!!!
But in the same time the use of pharmaceuticals to combat depression, anxiety, insomnia, and a whole host of stress-related health conditions including ulcers, IBS, and high blood pressure is sky rocketing!
I am using USA numbers because were easier to find but we can definitely extrapolate this to the most of the “advanced”, “civilized” world!
Let’s face it now the “advanced, civilized” economy is fuelled by keeping us a little bit unhappy….
“If I just had that… if I could just afford that, if I’d be somewhere else…. THEN I’d be happy, all that is there for sale, a new car, a bigger house, a new, ground breaking technology phone every year, millions and millions of products are designed OF COURSE to make us HAPPY, but we can’t be happy until we have them all, and you can never catch up, because the advanced, civilized companies are always faster, better!
The trouble is often people confuse happiness and joy with pleasure, with satisfying the senses, and if you need evidence for this, let’s just use the easier example, the billion dollar porn industry, and how EVERY thing in advertising is related to sex, sex sells, sexy house sexy car, sexy garden, sexy dog, sexy furniture, sexy chair, sexy donut, sexy hamburger, sexy pills ha ha ha, you name it, you sexy beast!!!
So it is not so surprising to see how, hoards of people are pursuing pleasure all their life, trying to capture it, to possess it and wanting to know that it will be there, in the same way, day after day.
But pleasure is a real bitch, isn’t it…. pleasure is very elusive, and can never be capture, it will always need more and more ….products, things, situations, people, excitement! Get’s you GREEDY, the pursuit of pleasure transforms us in greedy creatures!
AND pleasure is always dependent on the outside, depends on external circumstances that we can, very little control, and in the end we become more and more empty and miserable!
But happiness and more important … joy ALWAYS comes from inside, ALWAYS!!
The science of happiness that we became obsessed with is encouraging us to believe that there is always a better moment than this one, a better experience that we are supposed to be having, this moment is not enough, is not the moment that we should or could be living.
It’s another form of GREED, we want more, better, we want our life to be perfect and our happiness indestructible!
We keep demanding that life be something other than what is, and created a science of creating imaginary scenarios to make it happen!
Why don’t they teach us how to be okay in this life as it is, and experience it, right now, without turning the experience into an identity, positive or negative?
STOP for a second and tell me, is it anything fundamentally wrong with the moment you are in RIGHT now?
And after all why judge, why putting a label on it, there is so much beauty even in the most imperfect moments, there is so much beauty even in the most imperfect human beings, there is so much beauty as it is, we don’t need to change it, just to open our eyes and see it, instead of being busy judging it and wishing things were different!
Joy comes from being able to experience our life, right now, joy comes from being free, not from the experiences we do not want, but within the experiences that we have!
There are no perfect people, there are no perfect lives, there are no perfect relationships, there are no perfect places to be, but there are perfect moments to be lived, sometimes even in the most imperfect circumstances, why waste this moments being busy with chasing the wind?